It’s been a long time since I posted an update with my transition so this is well overdo.

I’ve completed 5 months of HRT (testosterone) treatment and have upped my dose twice since I last wrote. (Which reminds me I have to refill my prescription…) The changes I’ve been noticing are amazing! My voice is nowhere near as low as I want it to be but it IS lower and that’s a great sign. It takes time and I’m impatient. I’m also growing enough facial hair that I have to shave a couple times a week and my face looks a lot different.

For the first time in my life I can stand to look at my face in a mirror. It’s amazing.

Whats even BETTER though is I just met with my surgeon last week in regards to my top surgery. For those who don’t know, basically it’s a double mastectomy where they masculinize the chest. The surgeon looked me over, took measurements, and told me I’m a good candidate for the surgery. This is 16 years in the making for me so you can imagine my excitement. I still have to wait for another approval from Manitoba Health in order to have the surgery covered, which is annoying but far better than not getting it or having to pay myself.

I also want to sing the praises of the nursing staff. They used the correct name and seemed to understand the gravity of what the situation was. As we discussed recovery time and scarring I was very much “no big deal, worth it” and she even said “the results are so positive.” Both were kind and caring. The surgeon was, well, a doctor – but still made me feel comfortable and only as awkward as anyone raised female showing their breasts to a stranger.

On the home front, things are still good. My dad informed me the other day that he can’t possibly call me by my chosen name (Kal). My mom continues to misgender me every chance she gets. It’s getting uncomfortable and I don’t know how to approach it.

I’m tired of being asked if I’m sure about top surgery, too. I’ve been sure since I was 12 years old.